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Butterflies And Paratroopers Are Not Born With Wings

A Woman's Warrior Guide to Being Happy, Joyous, and Free

A Recovery Guide For Alcoholics, Overeaters, And Codependents
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A jigsaw puzzle has many pieces. Lose a few, and it’s never finished. Without a picture, fitting the right piece in the right place is more error than trial. Not having all the pieces complicates your life. It’s either “Not my fault” or “I didn’t do it.” But if you did do it? It’s still not your fault. It’s not, because life doesn’t come with instructions. This book is a set of clear-cut simple directions, that if followed, will allow the practitioner to live a happy, joyous, and free existence, no matter your  present perdition.

"We used to think one way, and now we think another"

Butterfly turned paratrooper isn’t easy. It takes a spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional transformation. In this book, you’ll earn your wings. We take your past trials, tribulations, pandemonium, and predicaments and transform them into a future where you’ll be happy, joyous, and free.  Be you defective from alcoholism, drug abuse, overeating, codependency, or whatever we have a wrench to fit every nut who walks through the door. We repair defective people by training them to keep their head down when on the firing line of life.


A companion workbook to Butterflies and Paratroopers are Not Born With Wings

The Fourth Step Inventory is a three-part process, Resentment, Fear, and Sex.

It’s in the resentment part we see; What we used to be like? In the Fear part; Why we are like that? And in the Sex Part; Why it’s important to change?

Each fifty-page Fourth Step Inventory Notebook provide the “mechanics” of how and why we do this work using brief, clear, and simple directions. These full size 8x11 sheets "fill-in-the-blank" notebooks relieve the writer of having to rewrite the questions for each interrogatory. This allows the writer to get down to causes and conditions without breaking concentration. These pre-prepared notebooks save time and makes reading the fifth step easy.

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A manuscript of Butterflies and Paratroopers Are Not Born with Wings was submitted to Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Office of Intellectual Property prior to publication. While excepts, in whole or part herein, are reprinted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. it neither approves nor necessarily agrees with the views expressed. A.A. is a program of recovery for alcoholism only—use of the Twelve Steps in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or in any other non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise.


Alcoholics Anonymous, AA, and the Big Book are registered trademarks of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. The First and Second Editions of Alcoholics Anonymous, The Story of How Many Thousands of Men and Women Have Recovered from Alcoholism are in the public domain in the United States only. The Third and Fourth Editions remain copyright protected worldwide.


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Twelve Step Workbook Series

The Twelve Steps is a program of action, design for living, and process of recovery, that if followed will not only relieve the obsession for alcohol, but allow the practitioner to live a happy, joyous, and free existence.  But butterfly turned paratrooper, like recovery, is not easy. There is a means and method to staying sober. That's what this series is about. In each workbook the text of the Big Book is broken down into a set of clear-cut simple directions. Each eight by eleven, fifty-page workbook consists of a synopsis of a step, and its associated reading from the Big Book with quiz questions regarding the reading on the opposite page. This tried and true “check on reading” method prevents mental overloading and makes comprehension and retention easy. From Step Zero to the Thirteenth Step, with the other twelve in between, everything you need to know about the Big Book is here.  


Twelve Step Workbook – Step Zero

This workbook looks at the Preface, the four Forewords, seven Appendices, Bill’s Story, and Dr. Bob’s Nightmare. This workbook describes in brief, clear, and simple language, why this text is important regarding the means and methods of how to stay sober, and to be happy, joyous, and free.

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Twelve Step Workbook – Step One

This workbook looks at Step One. This step has two parts and gets two full chapters in the Big Book. The first part, powerless, is covered in The Doctor's Opinion. The second part, unmanageable, is covered in More About Alcoholism. This workbook describes in brief, clear, and simple language, what Step One is about and why it is of paramount importance in achieving clarity of thought which is the foundation of recovering from a seemingly hopeless condition of mind and body.  


Twelve Step Workbook – Step Two

This Step Workbook looks at the two chapters dedicated to coming to Believe and being restored to sanity. In brief, clear, and simple language the complexities of spirituality, sobriety, sanity, and serenity are presented in a manner that is both educational and entertaining. 


Twelve Step Workbook – Step Three and Four

In this workbook we move from the intellectual into the mechanical directions of AAs Twelve Steps. No more of this is the way I want to do it. Here you will find the clear-cut simple directions to expel the obsession with alcohol. This we do by asking (1) What am I like? (2) Why am I like that? and (3) Why is it important to change? 


Twelve Step Workbook – Five, Six and Seven

This Step Workbook looks at the first half of the Big Book's Chapter Five - How It Works. Having admitted, come to believe, made a decision, written down a lot, now we need more action.  In this workbook you make the transition from the old-self to the new-self. But the old-self, will never surrender unconditionally. Now we'll why our defense must come from a Higher Power. 


Twelve Step Workbook – Twelve

Helping others takes more skill than just not drinking. Some sponsors know what to do and others should not own a potted plant. In this workbook you'll become familiar with the do's and don'ts of Working With Others. And, as we are on a life and death mission you'll want to get it right. 

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Twelve Step Workbook – Collateral Damage

"I'm not hurting one." Ah- yes. Your drinking does affect others, a great many to an extent that's more debilitating on their body and mind than yours. For alcoholism is like radiation. It's creeps into every nook and cranny of our existence. Only after the damage is done do we become aware of its presence. And once discovered we are like the sailors of a sinking ship. In trying to save ourselves we take anyone who tries to save us, down with us.

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Twelve Step Workbook – Eight, Nine Ten and Eleven

Now we need more action, for faith without work is death. This is what the second half of the chapter Into Action is all about. It's the training we require to keep that peculiar mental twist in check. There are reasons people relapse. In this workbook you are given the tools to make sure you're not one of them.


Twelve Step Workbook – 13th Step

This Step Workbook covers the step that's not a step. Yet, everybody knows this one. It's the 13th Step. The one no one wants practiced on them but there are those who have mastered it. These are the Raffle Ticket Romeo's. From this workbook you'll learn how to identify, prevent, and respond to sexual, financial, or other unwanted advances. 


Twelve Step Workbook – For The Grace of God

Bad pennies and old friends have a way of coming around again. “Mayday” is the international distress call. It comes from the French word m’aidez, meaning "help me." In this workbook, we'll explain the meaning of the prayer, "God help me." Which translates to, "I'm afraid, and I don't know what to do."

Why We Do the Fourth Step Series

There is only one sure way to make sure an alcoholic will never do as they are told; that's by telling them what to do. That's why in this Fourth Step Series you not only learn what to do, but why we do it.  After all, God gave us those brains to use not abuse. This means you're an alcoholic, not a moron.  While the purpose of these workbook is similar to the original Fourth Step Inventory Series contains the how and why we do and need this work.  


The Fourth Step Inventory is a three-part process: Resentment, Fear, and Sex. It’s in the resentment part we discover what we are like. In the fear part, why we are like that. And in the sex part, why it’s important to change. Each has its own set of questions. These workbooks not only provide the questions preprinted in proper Fourth-Step format to alleviate time-consuming, conscience-breaking, administrative tasking but explain in detail What we used to like. Why we were like that. A why we need to change. For these workbooks you'll understand what we mean when we say, " We used to think one way, and now we think another."


"In dealing with resentments we set them on paper.”

Twelve Step Directions- Step Four Resentments – “What we are like?”

A companion workbook to Butterflies and Paratroopers are Not Born with Wings

On our grudge list, we place the people, principles, and institutions that made us sore.

Next to each offense, we describe the trespass and how it affects us.

Turning it over we ask:

  • Where was I selfish.

  • Where was I dishonest?

  • Where was I self-seeking?

  • Where was I frightened?


“We reviewed our fears thoroughly. We put them on paper.”

Twelve Step Directions- Step Four Fear – “Why we are like that?”

A companion workbook to Butterflies and Paratroopers are Not Born with Wings

“Fear is the evil and corroding thread that weaves its way through the very fabric of our existence.”

  • We reviewed our fears thoroughly.

  • We put them on paper.

  • We asked ourselves why we have them?

  • Where did self-reliance fail us?

  • What could we have done instead?


“Now about sex. We got this all down on paper and looked at it.”

Twelve Step Directions- Step Four Sex – “Why it’s important to change?”

A companion workbook to Butterflies and Paratroopers are Not Born with Wings

With sex many of us needed an overhauling there.

  • Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate?

  • Whom did we hurt?

  • Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion, or bitterness?

  • Where were we at fault?

  • What should we have done instead?

  • Was is it selfish or not?

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